Parents With Premature Babies. If Your Baby Might Be Premature. We all know that babies are rarely born on their due dates. But when they are born way before they are expected (before the 37th week of pregnancy), it can be the most difficult situation you will ever face.
Two of my children were born early. One at 26 weeks, and one at 33 weeks. Life was tough, but we got through it.
Premature births, or preterm births, count for around 7% of births in Australia. A premature or preterm birth is traumatic for any parent. You can never fully prepare for a birth which may result in a premature infant. However, if your baby is likely to be born prematurely, you will benefit from exploring what life will be like with your baby. Reasons a baby might be born early are:
You may have some warning about your imminent premature birth. If you do, here is some advice
Visit your Neonatal Intensive Care Nursery and familiarise yourself with the surroundings. The sounds, equipment, and constant staff activity may scare you. But learning about how it all works to help save your baby will lessen the probability of suffering shock when you and your baby arrive in the nursery.
Speak with a lactation counsellor, or the Australian Breastfeeding Association about how to feed your baby. If you baby is too young or weak to suck, she will probably be fed via a nasogastric tube. You will need to express milk for her four hourly. Hire a breast pump. There are companies who deliver hospital grade pumps to you in home or hospital. Breast pumps are often unavailable in large hospitals due to the large number of mothers and babies using the equipment so you will need your own.
Organise care for your other children, help with the home and meals, and plan ahead for the coming months. Your baby may be hospital for a while, and could even be quite a long way from home, depending on the availability of NICU beds in your region. If you have no family or friends who are available to help, you may need to hire someone. There are agencies who provide home care, childcare and meals.
Talk to a social worker about help with the costs of hospital parking. It can get expensive, but you may be able to get a pass if you explain the situation to someone.
If you feel that you may be at risk of Postnatal Depression, talk to your Obstetrician, Midwife or GP. Mothers of premature infants are more likely to experience PND due to the huge stress that life with a sick baby entails.
Some practical advice -
Buy a small esky to transport your milk from home to hospital. Ask your partner to photograph your newborns first moments in NICU. Your bub will be whisked away to NICU immediately after birth and you will find yourself wondering what she looks like. Write a little birth plan outlining your hopes for what you wish to happen during and after baby’s arrival. Buy a blank book and diarise your journey.
Premmies are monitored closely for around three years. They have yearly checks after this up to eight years of age. They may suffer learning difficulties, developmental delays, fine or gross motor skill difficulties. Babies who are born prematurely are more likely to suffer from respiratory problems, brain or heart issues and low muscle tone. They will usually be smaller then other children their age in the long term. But are most likely to suffer no major problems in later life.
Interacting With Your Premature Baby
In the days and weeks after birth you will start to recognise the various cues your baby gives that will let you know how he/she is feeling. Learning to understand your babies cues can be helpful in knowing how to respond to your baby. Sleep and rest are important for the growing baby so wait until your baby is awake and relaxed before trying to engage his/her attention.
Trying to read any small babies behaviour/cues is not easy. At first you may feel unsure, but you will soon become more confident as time passes.
Some of the common signs that suggest your baby maybe ready to be touched, settled or fed include;
Some common signs that suggest your baby is trying to avoid being touched, fed or is becoming upset you may notice a few of the following signs;
As your relationship grows with your baby over time you will know him/her better than anyone. [ http://www.lilaussieprems.com.au/if-your-baby-might-be-premature/ ]
Two of my children were born early. One at 26 weeks, and one at 33 weeks. Life was tough, but we got through it.
Premature births, or preterm births, count for around 7% of births in Australia. A premature or preterm birth is traumatic for any parent. You can never fully prepare for a birth which may result in a premature infant. However, if your baby is likely to be born prematurely, you will benefit from exploring what life will be like with your baby. Reasons a baby might be born early are:
- Multiple birth
- Placenta Praevia
- Pre Eclampsia
- Premature labour
- Premature Rupture of Membranes
- Placental abruption
- Weak or Incompetent cervix
- High blood pressure
- Previous premature birth
You may have some warning about your imminent premature birth. If you do, here is some advice
Visit your Neonatal Intensive Care Nursery and familiarise yourself with the surroundings. The sounds, equipment, and constant staff activity may scare you. But learning about how it all works to help save your baby will lessen the probability of suffering shock when you and your baby arrive in the nursery.
Speak with a lactation counsellor, or the Australian Breastfeeding Association about how to feed your baby. If you baby is too young or weak to suck, she will probably be fed via a nasogastric tube. You will need to express milk for her four hourly. Hire a breast pump. There are companies who deliver hospital grade pumps to you in home or hospital. Breast pumps are often unavailable in large hospitals due to the large number of mothers and babies using the equipment so you will need your own.
Organise care for your other children, help with the home and meals, and plan ahead for the coming months. Your baby may be hospital for a while, and could even be quite a long way from home, depending on the availability of NICU beds in your region. If you have no family or friends who are available to help, you may need to hire someone. There are agencies who provide home care, childcare and meals.
Talk to a social worker about help with the costs of hospital parking. It can get expensive, but you may be able to get a pass if you explain the situation to someone.
If you feel that you may be at risk of Postnatal Depression, talk to your Obstetrician, Midwife or GP. Mothers of premature infants are more likely to experience PND due to the huge stress that life with a sick baby entails.
Some practical advice -
Buy a small esky to transport your milk from home to hospital. Ask your partner to photograph your newborns first moments in NICU. Your bub will be whisked away to NICU immediately after birth and you will find yourself wondering what she looks like. Write a little birth plan outlining your hopes for what you wish to happen during and after baby’s arrival. Buy a blank book and diarise your journey.
Premmies are monitored closely for around three years. They have yearly checks after this up to eight years of age. They may suffer learning difficulties, developmental delays, fine or gross motor skill difficulties. Babies who are born prematurely are more likely to suffer from respiratory problems, brain or heart issues and low muscle tone. They will usually be smaller then other children their age in the long term. But are most likely to suffer no major problems in later life.
Interacting With Your Premature Baby
In the days and weeks after birth you will start to recognise the various cues your baby gives that will let you know how he/she is feeling. Learning to understand your babies cues can be helpful in knowing how to respond to your baby. Sleep and rest are important for the growing baby so wait until your baby is awake and relaxed before trying to engage his/her attention.
Trying to read any small babies behaviour/cues is not easy. At first you may feel unsure, but you will soon become more confident as time passes.
Some of the common signs that suggest your baby maybe ready to be touched, settled or fed include;
- a relaxed facial expression
- putting hands to his/her mouth
- holding your finger or grasping an object
- clasping his/her hands
- crying
Some common signs that suggest your baby is trying to avoid being touched, fed or is becoming upset you may notice a few of the following signs;
- baby avoids eye contact with you
- baby’s face looks worried/wrinkled
- baby splays (stretches out) his/her fingers
- baby wriggles and squirms (fussy fashion)
As your relationship grows with your baby over time you will know him/her better than anyone. [ http://www.lilaussieprems.com.au/if-your-baby-might-be-premature/ ]
An essay featured on our site offers hope to overwhelmed preemie parents: On Graduation Weekend, Marking the Passage of Time
ReplyDeletehttp://womensvoicesforchange.org/on-graduation-weekend-marking-the-passing-of-time.htm
tells the story of a young man who is graduating college this week. Born at 29 weeks gestation, he weighed 2 lbs, 7 ounces.
Now, he is preparing to graduate from college. It is a story of his hard work, sometimes his struggles in school, and triumphs like being an Eagle Scout at a very young age.
Please share this with parents who are struggling, to help them know that the challenges of parenting a very young preemie can be overcome, and can turn into uplifting success stories like this.
Thank you.
- Elizabeth Willse
Contributing Editor, Women's Voices For Change, a nonprofit news and social networking blog for women over 40.